Top Five Tips How to Stay Emotionally Safe in a Dom/Sub Chat

While physical pain might be what turns you on, the emotional one is a completely different story. The scars on the heart are hardest to heal.  If you are, for instance, a member of a dating site such as Mistress Chat and take part in mistress chat rooms and mistress webcam chat these tips will help you stay emotionally safe online:


Be honest. Honesty works on several levels and both for doms and subs.  You need to be honest with yourself and the prospective partners. Be truthful about what it is that you are looking for. Do not say that all you want is a no strings attached rough play if you are looking for love and vice versa. Be upfront about what your limits are and what the line you would not cross is. Do not be afraid to ask questions if you are unfamiliar with a term or practice and do not be ashamed about it.
Go with your gut feeling. You should trust your instincts and if something does not feel right then, in most likelihood, it is not. Staying safe is paramount in these situations and if your inner voice is telling you to back away listen to it.
Never reveal too many things about yourself online. You do not want your personal life abused and posted all over the internet.  Also, be wary of people who will not share anything about their personal information while constantly and incessantly bombarding you with questions. If you find yourself in such a situation, ask yourself why it might be so and then ask them. If you cannot get a valid and satisfactory answer, the best thing is to walk away.
Pay attention to warnings. If you hear from more than just one person that a prospective partner is bad news, heed those warnings and check them out. The best thing to do in those situations is to openly ask the prospective partner about the stuff you hear and then reach your own conclusion.  If you feel that there might be something in the allegations the best thing is to back away.
Do not engage in online gossip or breach confidence. These things have a habit of coming back to haunt you and will cause a lot of unnecessary hurt and aggravation.