Who Said That Army Dating Is Easy?

Being in the army dating situation can be really tough. It is not because soldiers need to be tough, but because it is difficult when you get a crush, start a relationship and even making some plans, and then – all of a sudden – your significant other gets deployed. That is when your heart starts breaking, and you start asking yourself why you even got into that kind of a relationship.

You knew that he was a soldier and that there was a big chance of him being deployed, so why did you pretend all the time? This is only one of billions of questions that go through your head in that situation. He is about to leave. None of you want that, but you know that he has. It is his job. And you get angry that these types of jobs even exist. You blame the people who are in war to be the cause of your misery. Then you direct that misplaced anger to each other. Then you have a fight. Then he goes while you still have lots of passion in you combined with unresolved issues. Then your whole emotional future depends on those occasional letters you get from him. The worst thing is that you do not know when he is coming back, and the scariest thing is that you are not even sure if he is. Then you have nothing to hold on to and you start to crack.

Remember boys and girls – in this army dating thing, it is most crucial that you remember how it was before you got the news about deployment. Keep bringing those beautiful memories back and hold on to them. You do not want to give up and break up while he or she is gone. You will end up with guilty conscience about copping out, and they might lose their mind in the battlefield. It would make them unconscious, which is not a good thing at such a place. And having to be dumped and in a war zone may make everything so senseless, that they may even decide to five up on their own lives. You can have affairs while they are gone, but do not resolve delicate issues until they are back.

What I strongly suggest is to join this army dating club and meet other couples who are in the same mess like you. Talk to them and share your pain. Organize a support group. It will help you heal and make the rough times easier. See what kind of routines or techniques they use to get over the emotional pain while they are waiting for their partners to come back.

Do you agree with me? Penny for your thoughts on this.